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Title Houston Voice, No. 817, June 21, 1996
Contributor
  • Bell, Deborah Moncrief
Publisher Window Media
Date June 21, 1996
Language English
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  • LGBTQ community
  • LGBTQ people
  • Gay liberation movement
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  • Houston, Texas
Genre
  • newspapers
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  • Text
Identifier OCLC: 31485329
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  • University of Houston Libraries Special Collections
  • LGBT Research Collection
  • Montrose Voice
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Transcript HOUSTON VOICE/ JUNE 21. 1996 11 PFLAG-There For Us Peggy was shocked. She called her son one night to talk, and the phone was answered by a friend. When she asked who this was, his reply, "Honey, I'm his boyfriend." She then hung up the phone, not identifying herself. As Peggy sat down, she realized all her fears came true. Her son was a homosexual. All his friends were homosexual as well. She wondered what kind of lifestyle he was living. She decided to visit him and find out. Her son, named Alex, met her at the airport. Along with him was a good friend, not the one who answered the phone. His friend was very clean cut and attractive. What we might call a pretty boy. On the way to his apartment, Peggy didn't say much. Now thai she was seeing her son in a different light, she didn't know what to say. At the apartment, Alex knew something was wrong. After his friends left, he sat down with his mom and asked what was wrong. She replied, "I know you're gay." Alex wasn't ready for such a blunt announcement. His reply to his mother was "And?" Well, said Peggy, "Are you alright? Do you have AIDS? Is there anything I need to know?" Alex decided to be honest about everything. He explained to her that he was HIV-positive bul didn't yet have AIDS. He showed her the many medications he was taking. He tried to explain to her what the medicines were for. She said she would like to speak with his doctor, and they called him. He was glad to speak with Peggy. They had a very informative visit. Although Peggy felt better knowing Alex's condition, she was still very sad. She knew one day she would lose her son. This was always her biggest fear, that her son would die before she did. She also had this anger towards the gay community for the spread of this disease. She knew this feeling was irrational, but she couldn't help it. Where was the person who infected Alex? Is he still alive? Was Alex the only one, or were there more. And what aboul Alex, was he infecting people? She had to know. It was then she got a call. The woman was asked to call Peggy by Alex's doctor. She was a member of Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) and also had a gay son. This group helps family members cope when their children (or sibling) comes out to them. She offered to meet with Peggy and talk with her and maybe try to answer any questions she might have. Peggy replied she had a lot of questions that she needed answered. They met for lunch. The woman brought two other mothers with her. One was in PFLAG and the other was a mother whose son died from AIDS. They explained that the Gay community is trying to stop the spread of AIDS, and about the many education programs that were designed to inform people how to avoid getting it. They talked with her about safe sex. They explained to her that AIDS was spreading because people, both gay and straight were ignoring safe sex warnings. Most had no idea what it meant to become infected with HIV or foolishly thought that they were not at risk. They also explained how important the support of parents is for gay and lesbian children, especially those that are living with AIDS. That support sometimes made all the difference in the health of their child. That the secrets of remaining in the closet might be too stressful on Iheir child's immune system. So Peggy made a determination to tell her son that he had her total support. Peggy also decided to join PFLAG, and let the world know how proud she was of her son, and how brave she thought he was. Peggy asked Alex to join her on the sofa. She told him what she was going to do. Alex was so proud of his mother's commitment, he started to cry. She held him in her arms, and told him he would never have to worry aboul a place to stay or someone to take care of him if he needed it. She said she would never tolerate someone speaking bad about gays. And she said her life was much better since she knew the truth about Alex. At the first PFLAG meeting, Peggy was very pleased with the turn out. She has made many new friends. Although her trip was coming to an end, she planned to join the PFLAG group in her city. That group wasn't very large, but it was a very strong chapter. Peggy knew she could add a lot to it. Alex died several months ago. He did have to go home, where he was taken well care of by his mother and her friends. His last words were "Thank you mother. I love you." But all is not lost for Peggy. Her participation in PFLAG has kept her going. Her pride in her son kept his memory warm in her heart. She gained something important, even though she suffered such a terrible loss. Her participation in PFLAG and the support group at her church helped her deal with Alex's death. She thanked God for his blessings. The funeral was very solemn. But (he nice thing was that PFLAG was there. They were lined against the wall and several of the members were holding the PFLAG banner, in respect and memory of Alex. Peggy was the only speaker. She said she learned more from Alex about life than she ever knew possible. His courage and strength, his determination to live a quality life, and his ability to accept his illness gave her strength to accept it as well. She thanked Alex for his life and love. She then walked quietly towards the back of the room to leave, and her PFLAG friends draped the banner around her as she left. She was grateful she wasn't alone that day. PFLAG is a wonderful group. They are very strong and supportive of our community. If you have a parent (or other family member) that supports you, get them involved in this fine group. They can be especially helpful if you are just coming out to your family. PFLAG is the greatest ally of our community. When you see them in the Pride parade this year, please thank them for their support. They love us very much. Not just their own children but all of us. Enough to face the horror of AIDS with us, enough to go to Washington to lobby for our rights, enough to learn and grow, not only to accept us, but to be there for us through it all. Anyone who wants to extol "Family Values" should look at PFLAG, because time after time they prove by example what we all know—Love makes a family, nothing more and nothing less. The Houston Chapter of PFLAG can be reached at 713/867-9020. Glen Webber is a former employee of Continental Airlines and a person living with AIDS in Houston Sgg qn important n«ws story happen? ♦ Call the YHOHSTON VOICET ™ 1UE m± 3 (71^1 871-8810 WE'VE relocated IO \/ 10/ 0/0 00 10 (one block North of Greenspoint Mall) 0 Wednesdays & Sundays • 8-11pm 2 Fall in love with "Two of Hearts" i Mondays • 8-11pm *•>■ .*«•*■-• Sing to the tune of $50 *W J at-vO'5 "Karaoke Contest" ^4s>/*, -t o<^<^ Tuesdays • 10:30 pm ^>-v WATCH THE GIRLS DANCE *" -J. 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