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Title Houston Voice, No. 825, August 16, 1996
Contributor
  • Bell, Deborah Moncrief
Publisher Window Media
Date August 16, 1996
Language English
Subject
  • LGBTQ community
  • LGBTQ people
  • Gay liberation movement
Place
  • Houston, Texas
Genre
  • newspapers
Type
  • Text
Identifier OCLC: 31485329
Collection
  • University of Houston Libraries Special Collections
  • LGBT Research Collection
  • Montrose Voice
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Note This item was digitized from materials loaned by the Gulf Coast Archive and Museum (GCAM).
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Title File 010
Transcript HOUSTON VOICE/ AUGUST 16, 1996 9 Love, Loss, and Starting Over Thirteen years is a long time to have a lover. I never expected to have one, much less for thai long. Kelse was a great man and I am glad to have met him. The fact that he liked me as well, was good for me. I have always felt that lovers should like each other before they love each other. I've met couples that I felt didn't truly like each other and feel lucky that Kelse and I had the relationship that we did. This may be weird, I don't know if it is or not, but I think about Kelse a lot. Even three years after his death, he is still on my mind. I dream about him frequently. What does that mean? Is it healthy? Well, I don't care. I like having him in my dreams. Once, I was in bed, it was about 3:00 a.m. and I wasn't totally asleep. Suddenly, there was Kelse, sitting on the edge of my bed, and he started talking to me. I can't remember exactly what he said, but I know he told me he loved me and to carry on. It is a horrible experience to watch someone die, especially when it is the person you love the most in the world. It lakes a very strong person to get through their lover's death and to confront their own feelings. I wasn't there when Kelse died, and I had terrible guilt about it. The guilt lasted more than a year. I'm glad I missed it, in a way, because I'm not sure how strong I would have been. It may have made it harder for me. It was hard enough to see him deteriorate, very hard. My complete lack of being able to help him made it even harder. I sometimes think of how I really could have helped him. But I also realize I did what I could and I should have no regrets. Having regrets affects a lot of what a person goes through when their partner dies. I have been there, and I know that it is a heavy burden. That is why therapy or support groups are so important. Talking about it with others really helps. I do know one thing, he would have been there for me. and I would die with the happiness of knowing I was loved. I would like to hear about your experience. Please write the editor and share your thoughts with us. What really helped our relationship is that his family really liked me and my family really liked him. Kelse was from Georgetown and it was always nice to go visit that quaint little town. I always wondered what it would be like growing up in a charming place like that. I recently sold our home and selling it has brought up a lot of memories for me. But Kelse would have understood and supported my decision. I have second thoughts sometimes about having sold the house but realize living in Montrose is the best thing for me now. I would like another long term relationship. I've been lonely over the past three years. I really would like to give love another try. But like most of you, I don't know how to meet Mr. Right. If it is supposed to happen, I imagine it will. I hope I'm not to old or to sick for it to happen. My good friend, Dr. O'Donnel, gave me some good advice about starting over. He said you must first go through the grieving process and play out all your emotions. A lot of people feel they are cheating on their dead lover by going out with other men. He says you can honor your lover but still get on with your life. And this is my advice. Don't deny yourself from meeting nice men. You never know when your next lover is standing near you, looking at you and thinking how nice it would be to meet you. If he smiles at you, go say hi. You don't have to tell him your life story unless he asks. Maybe it won't be the perfect romance, but maybe you will at least find a good friend. I want to thank Pet Patrol for taking care of my dog, Miss Lady, while I was in the hospital. Those caring volunteers made my worries lighter knowing she was well cared for while I was fighting my umpteenth infection. If you love animals, the Pet Patrol is the perfect group to volunteer for. Glen Webber is a person living with AIDS and looking for love and friends in the Montrose area of Houston . ""QOTgi™—u fy @wit Htwii* The Outsider will not appear this week. Curt Morrison is on assignment covering the Republican National Convention. The column will appear in next's issue ofthe Houston Voice. Fight Hate Crimes! • Move confidently. Keep your head up, look around, be alert! • Confront verbal harassment if you think it would deter attack. Attackers often test potential victims. • Trust your instincts. Only you know whether or when to fight •If you are attacked, respond quickly (in the first 30 seconds): Yell, blow a whistle, fight - kick knees, gouge eyes, stomp on feet, knee groin - RUN. • Call the police as soon as possible. • If you hear a call for help or witness violence, yell out at the attacker, call police - gather other people and rush to the scene ■ not to intervene, but to scare off the aatackerfc). Consider becoming part of the Q-PATROL - Call 871-8519 At L0F30 we ponder such hard hitting political cjuestions such where did Steve Gunderson get such a cute lover? -and- where did Candace Gingrich get such an ... interesting... haircut? 3939-S Montrose LOBO Price $16.35 Publisher's- Price $33.93 LOBO Price $19.95 Publisher's Price $24-.95 LOBO Price 01&.4-O Publisher's Price $23.OO ACTIVIST CANDACE GINGRICH 713-522-5156 SUNDAYS • TRASH DISCO • SUNDAYS • TRASH DISCO • SUNDAYS l&CO All Well Bloody Marys, Screwdrivers, Cape Cods, Madras and Hand Shaken Kamikazis ONLY $1.75 plus S1.75 Domestic Longnecks ALL DAY/ALL NIGHT ... and on Our Tropical Patio, enjoy Our New ouble louble BUST Enjoy 2 BUSTS for A S2.00 (Optional) Buy-In Our Traditional BEER BUST with 25c Refills of Ice Cold Miller Lite Draft or Try Our NEW FROZEN RITA BUST with si.oo Refills The Patio Opens at 1pm and the Party Continues All Night Long. 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