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Montrose Voice, No. 152, September 23, 1983 - File 022. 1983-09-23. University of Houston Libraries. University of Houston Digital Library. Web. October 22, 2020. https://digital.lib.uh.edu/collection/montrose/item/1601/show/1593.

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Title Montrose Voice, No. 152, September 23, 1983
Contributor
  • McClurg, Henry
Publisher Community Publishing Company
Date September 23, 1983
Language English
Subject
  • LGBTQ community
  • LGBTQ people
  • Gay liberation movement
Place
  • Houston, Texas
Genre
  • newspapers
Type
  • Text
Identifier OCLC: 22329406
Collection
  • University of Houston Libraries Special Collections
  • LGBT Research Collection
  • Montrose Voice
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Note This item was digitized from materials loaned by the Gulf Coast Archive and Museum (GCAM).
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Title File 022
Transcript Sept. 23,1983 / Montrose Voice 21 Commentary There Sure Are a Lot of 'Johns' Out There By Joe Baker During the past 12 years that I have been writing professionally, I've probably written several hundred thousand words and thousands of news and feature stories and columns. Few of those, however, prompted the reader response I received following my column of a few weeks ago entitled, "Dear John, Wherever You Are, This Column Is For You." In case you missed it, the column dealt with a personal experience: My "Mr. Right" turned out to be an inconsiderate, flaming asshole. I wrote the column for several reasons. First of all, I had to get the hurt out of my system. For me, writing does that. I also felt that a lot of gay men and women could easily identify with my experience. In addition, there was a message I wanted to get across to the "Johns" of the world. And, okay I'll admit it, down deep I hoped that my former infatuation would see the column—and realize that if I ever saw his car parked in some parking lot, I was going to let the air out of his tires. Reader response from the column was overwhelming. I never realized there were so many people like my "John" in Texas. Readers who wrote or talked to me in person all wanted to tell me their horror stores. Everybody had a similar experience with somebody who broke their hearts. They all agreed with my plea to the "Johns" out there in that big, bad world that "a little honesty can go a long way and save a lot of hurt." I'd like to share some of the comments I received from readers. It sure makes us realize that we are not alone. We all love and hurt the same way. A sampling: "If you think you got dumped on, let me tell you about my 'John.' We were together for six months, and he was everything I could want in a man. It was pure love. "One day I came home from work—and all my best clothes, my color television, my stereo, my records and tapes and some valuable pieces of art were gone. "He left a note, though. It said, 'So long, sucker!' That was five years ago. I've never seen him since and have no idea where he went." — n— "Thank you! Your article made me stop and think.'Have I been Mr. Right for someone and treated him the way John treated you? "I hope your article touched other hearts the way it did mine and made them think the way it did me." — o — "My 'John' cruised me for three hours one Saturday night. Every place I went, he showed up. Finally, we got together and later decided to go back to my place. I was sorry I had played hard-to-get for so long, because he really turned out to be a terrific guy. I could hardly wait to get home alone with him. "He followed me all the way to my place, but when we got to my driveway, he didn't follow me in. He just drove on." — □ — "There are also female 'Johns.' I gave 20 years of my life to this woman and could not have loved her more. When I turned 60—and figuring I would be spending the rest of my old age with her—she walked out on me for a younger woman." — D — "Boy, did your column make me think! I've never taken the dates I've made very seriously. I've stood a lot of people up— never bothering to call and cancel or to call afterwards and explain. I guess I've hurt a lot of people." —□ — "Can I ever tell you some 'John' stories! I don't make dates anymore. I've been stood up too often. If anybody wants to get together with me, we do it right away or not at all. I don't trust gay people." — D — "I met somebody once, and he told me all the things I wanted to hear, too. I thought he was great. He told me one thing I didn't want to hear, though. After we spent the night together, he informed me he had the clap." — D — "I also don't understand why gays treat each other so badly. Sometimes I think is it all a game: Hurt somebody before they hurt you." — D — "I've met dozens of Mr. Rights, and they've all turned out to be like that John you wrote about. Everyone of them had a lover they couldn't bear to leave. Of course, they never brought up the lover until after I had fallen in love with them— or they wanted to dump me." —a— "You might just as well get use to gay men treating you like a piece of meat. That is all they are interested in. You have to become the same way just to survive." "Joe, I know what your problem is. You are going after too good-looking guys. The prettier they are and the better bodies they have, the bigger aBBholes they are. Fall in love with an average looking or ugly man, and you will be treated wonderfully." TAFT AUTOMOTIVE SumrrTBTSpecials • Oil Change & Lube $1995 • Tune Up from $3995 * Air Conditioning Check & Charge $2180 1411 TAFT 522-2190 • AUTOMATIC TRANSMISSION • IGROOVIN'* CRUISIN'* BOOZIN' WHACKO CITY SPECIALS AND SURPRISES AIDS PLAY SAFE WEEK PARTY Sunday, Sept. 25th, 4pm til 1st Drink Purchase Goes to KS/AIDS Foundation of Houston, Inc. HOT MEN, HOT MUSIC, MUNCH IES AND ALL GOOD LOVIN' VIBES... 2923 MAIN • HOUSTON • 522-0000
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