TO THE EDITOR
Frequently disenters togay organizations, gay publications and
gay churches ask, "What good are
you doing? Why, rOck the boat?"
These people not only refuse
to work for gay unity and love,
but deliberately drag their feet.
I only wish these feet-dragers
could sit for just one evening in
~a""Gay Community Crises Center,
or read the letters this newspaper
receives from lonely people all
over America. Following is a
typical letter--just one in a hundred:
I live in a small town in Missouri. I have no close friends.
My father and I don't get along
" this sp^i-fig, i
I'm leaving this town forever.
I know I'm gay, but I don't
know how to meet anyone. How
can I let a guy know I want to
talk to him? How can I let him
know I want to have sex with him?
How can I handle my religous
feelings while being gay also?
How can I handle the need for
secrets and fears of being found
Please help me. I'm so lonely.
Neither I (nor anyone else) can
give you "instant knowledge (or
wisdom)" by mail order. On the
other hand, I can't turn my back
on a brother, so I shall, dp m£
best. But please keep in mind
I'm no authority. I speak only
from my own experiences.
1. How to break the ice and talk
with a stranger? In a city park
or public rest room, don't try.
The chances 'of your getting beat-
up, rolled or arrested are real
good. At the local YMCA you
can always talk about swimming,
basketball, ping-pong, photography
or whatever your intended friend
is interested in. But go slow at
first. Play it with caution. Make
damn sure you get an opening before you give one.
It's easy to meet people in a
gay bar if you don't wait for
people to come to you. You go
to them. Ask someone if they'd
like to dance.
Better still, when you leave
home, move to a city with a gay
organization or Metropolitan Community Church. There you will
be warmly welcomed by lots of
nice people, and you'll be safe.
2. What technique to use to let
him know you are interested in
sex? Many Gays like quick pickups and are very good at it. But
you are very young and just coming
out. Make friends first. Sex
will come naturally.
3. How to handle religious/gay
feelings? Read THE LORD IS MY
SHEPHARD AND HE KNOWS I'M
GAY, SEX WITHOUT GUILT, SOCIETY AND THE HEALTHY HOMOSEXUAL. Talk with people
at the MCC. They've been through
what you are just now entering.
4. How to handle fears of being
If you can, slowly come out of
your closet. The feeling of being
really free for the first time in
your life is so great, you'll never
want to hide again. On the other
hand, if you must stay in your
closet (because of your job, your
yOuth or whatever) just do as others
do. Play it safe. But leave a
little place in your heart to say
daily: I'm Gay and I'm Proud
and I'm Healthy. And if others
don't like it, they have a problem,
John, at this stage of your life
you need a friend more than you
need a sex partner. Someone your
own age that you can talk to.
Someone to open up your heart to.
A Negro woman (one of our
own) died. I went to her friend
to express sympathy. Imagine my
surprise when she said, "Oh, we
were not friends. Just acquaintances." "What do you mean?"
I asked. "I used to see you two
laughing and talking to gether all
the time." "Oh yes," she replied.
"We laughed and talked together
lots of times. But folks gotta
cry together before they're
I'm an old man. I look back
on my youth and see the mistakes,
the teaxs...the beartack, the fears^
as well as the happy moments.
I would love to shield you againast
the bad so that you could enjoy
only the good. But I can't. You
must stumble and fall like all the
others who have gone before you.
Only then will you grow strong.
Good luck. Always remember:
there are millions of us. In Gay
Love, Steve Jonnsson Asst. ed.
which was wall to wall shoulder to
shoulder elbow to elbow on top
of and under neath (if possible)
was captured and undivided for the
entire hour and half.
The Speak-Easy, which opened
on June 6th, is an amazing come
back for the owners Buddy and Art
after the long run of success at
the Atlantis which closed three
Buddy and Art also opened the
Tara club and the Detour.
The Speak-Easy is attracting
large crowds (full house on weekends) of the more masculine and
The Speak-Easy offers mixed
drinks and beer at popular prices, an attractive dance floor
ces, an attractive dance floor
with a light show and split level
seating for easy cruising. The
bar is located two levels up from
.tha... main floor..—Tiwro is no ■■
veteran of Imperial glory in China,
Africa, India, and now on the eve
of his ultimate epic, his transfiguration through death at the
hands of Dervishes in the Sudan.
With penetrating insight and
tender compassion, Maugham describes the last tortured months of
Gordon's life as Gordon himself
might have recorded them in his
last journal. It is the gripping,
moving portrait of a man as unsure
of his destiny as he was unsure of
his sexual emotions.
As the author of The Servant,
Escape from the Shadows, and
Somerset and All the Maughams
sees him, Gordon of Khartoum
is reminiscent of Lawrence of
Arabia: the same bravery in the
face of terror and death, the same
sexual ambivalence, the same tor-
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A capacity crowd filled Dallas'
newest swinging gay bar, the Dallas
Speak-Easy, on July 3rd to witness a contest and ultimate crowning of a representative to send
to the 1973 Mr. David Contest to
be held in New York City in August. Ten worthy contestants competed in swimsuits and "do your
own thing" competition as well
as a question-answer period. The
group of ten was narrowed down
to three finalists by a panel of
three judges. The judges were
Miss Durlene Dunham, Mr. Patrick Gleason and Mr. Dick
"Mavis"Bowen. The Second runner-up, Johnny Maddox, was awarded the title "Mr. Butch Guy"
and a trophy. Jimmy Mahaffey
was the first runner-up and was
awarded the title "Mr. Hunk"
and a trophy. Mike Rhoads was
the first place runner and he will
receive an expense paid trip to
N.Y.C. plus $50.00 cash and a
trophy. Mike will represent the
Speak-Easy at the Mr. David Contest August 10-11-12. Mike's reining title for 1973-74 is "Mr.
Dallas Speak-Easy Body Beautiful."
All .of the contestants appeared
to be well en-dowed and well-
developed, (muscle wise)
The ceromonies were well
planned and wjsII presented by veteran "Sonny "Suwall long time
friend and associate of the owners
Buddy Rogers and Arthur Lombar-
di. The attention of the audience,
Gordon of Khartoum, the soldier
and mystic who has been considered as a strange, heroic misfit
and a combination of martyr, saint
and crank, comes to life with hallucinating credibility in a nove.,
THE LAST ENCOUNTER by Robin
Maugham (McGraw-Hill, $6.95).
For his twentieth book, the
famous author draws on material
painstakingly gathered over aper-
iod of two decades from a wide
variety of sources. He vividly evokes an unforgettable figure: Gen-
eral Charles George Gordon, the
mtnttd soul"seal Lhlng uibtllUjulsil
both men. As the London Sunday
Times observed upon publication
of this book's British edition, The
Last Encounter "presents a convincing portrait of a strangely
We are born, we live, we love
Then we die and the waves
Continue to beat upon the rocks
The seed and harvest time come and go
But nothing remains but the earth
And what should have been, but
Couldn't and won't be
Another time another age
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