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Gaypulse, Vol. 1, No. 11, August 1988 - File 006. 1988-08. University of Houston Libraries. University of Houston Digital Library. Web. April 10, 2020. https://digital.lib.uh.edu/collection/gcam/item/1540/show/1532.

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Title Gaypulse, Vol. 1, No. 11, August 1988
Contributor
  • Renteria, Belinda
Publisher Pulse Publishing
Date August 1988
Language English
Subject
  • LGBTQ community
  • LGBTQ people
Place
  • El Paso, Texas
Genre
  • newspapers
Type
  • Text
Identifier OCLC: 780110663
Collection
  • University of Houston Libraries Special Collections
  • LGBT Research Collection
  • Gulf Coast Archive and Museum (GCAM) Digital Archive
Rights No Copyright - United States
Note This item was digitized from materials loaned by the Gulf Coast Archive and Museum (GCAM).
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Transcript Books. Unbroken Ties: Lesbian Ex-Lovers Carol S. Becker Alyson Publications Reviewed by Marcy Adelman. Ph.D. A book has finally been written to help us understand what happens when lesbian lovers break up. how we recover from the woulds, and what we learn from these experiences. Unbroken Ties is Dr. Carol Becker's summary and analysis of her interviews with forty lesbians of different racial and socioeconomic backgrounds about the breakup of their partnerships. The book explores the diverse ways that women coped with the end of these relationships and the creative ways in which they rebuilt their lives. Throughout Unbroken Ties, the women speak in their own voices about why their lover relationships ended, how they recovered from their breakups, and the process of building ex-lover relationships. In the first part of the book, the women tell us about their losses and disillusionments. I found myself reliving my own losses and was reminded of how hard we try to make our relationships succeed. From the patterns that emerged in these interviews. Dr. Becker discerns five situations that lead to the breakups: polarized differences, traumatizing affairs, passive withdrawal by one partner, dissatisfaction with a chaotic relationship, and simply growing apart. Becker's comments on the issue of nonmonogomy are refreshing and insightful. She wi ites: fKULMHi^^HHlM Affairs don't always destroy lover relationships; sometimes they arc used to enhace them. The effect of affairs depends on many factors: the resiliency of the relationship; the intentions of each of the women; how traumatic the actual affair is to the couple's relationship; the extent to which the affair evokes old wounds. Affairs, then, are not automatically good or bad for relationships. They can be used to renew or sever the primary relationship. Irreparable trauma to a relationship Is just one possible out-come within this complex matrix of issues and events. Her description of dysfunctional, crisis-oriented relation- ships is clear-sighted and compassionate. Becker states, By engaging in these dysfunctional relationships women make unconscious attempts to fix wounded aspects of themselves by (being their lovers. Roles and problems polarize, and crises provide the illusion of movement and change. Current relationship dramas repeal the unseen and unhealed wounds of each partner's past life. The second half of the book brings us to the healing process. The women begin the task of rebuilding their lives by refocusing on their needs and priorities. They discover a new appreciation of themselves and describe the rebuilding of their social relationships -with friends. children, family members, new lovers, and ex-lovers. These chapters will be welcome and helpful reading for any women in the process of recovering from a breakup. The strength of Unbroken Ties is its focus on now we acquire greater empathy for our own needs and strengthen our self-esteem by grieving our losses. Dr. Becker has written an empowering book about a painful topic. This ground breaking work will be immensely helpful to therapists with lesbian and gay clients and will be a comfort to women experiencing the breakup of a lover relationship. Dr. Carol S. Becker was bom and raised in Michigan's Upper Peninsula. She received her Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from Mercy College of Detroit in 1964. She continued her graduate training in Clinical Psychology at Duquesne University in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania and completed her M.A. in 1968 and her Ph.D. in 1973. An offer of a tenured-track job in university teaching drew her to California where she has beend teaehding and doing psychotherapy since 1973. Currently, Dr. Becker is a Professor of Human Development at California State University! lay ward. She has , jut tlw private practb psychotherapy in San Franctsco and Berkeley. Unbroken Ties: Lesbian Ex- levers is Dr. Becker's first book. Gay Signs J.E. Kneeland Hay House, Inc. With the recent media attention given to astrology, a renewed focus in this ancient science may be awakening. History tells us that world cultures utilized astrology to study and understand man's destiny and his role inthe universe. From Imhotep to Plato and Socrates, from Ptolemy to Galileo and Copernicus, ancient rulers and respected astronomers studied astrology alongside astronomy. However, in time, political and religious sovereignties caused astrology to be reduced to an "occult" science-having no real inherent value. But in Tight of its recent attention, astrology's usefulness—as a tool to guide mankind- may reemerge as a positive expression in today's world. Gay Signs, an astrological guide for homosexual men oy J. E. Kneeland. is aimed at assisting gay men to understand and appreciate who they are. and affords them the opportunity to re-examine certain beliefs and attitudes they may have about themselves. Mr. Kneeland presents an affirmative direction on how to transform negative aspects into positive challenges so readers can move toward healthier and more fulfilling lifestyles. The lesson of astrology is that every 'negative' has a positive, and the challenge for each individual's chart is to take what might appear to be problems and turn them to benefits.... CONTINUED ON PAGE 6 «9S0 VISTA GRANDt EL PASO TEXAS 79922 S. A. F. E. would like to thank Bob Bonaventure of the Old Plantation, our special guests Tasha Kohl and Naomi Sims, and especially you, the community, for making our first annual Black and White party such a success. Approximately 400 people attended and over $1,500 was raised. Due to the succes of this fund raiser S. A. F. E. was able to donate $1,000 to S. W. A. C. for the establishment of a food bank for PWAs in El Paso. S. A. F. E. would also like to take this opportunity to welcome our new board members to the team. Congratulations to: Terry Call JD Carr, ex -oficio Bob Bonaventure, ex-oficio Gilbert Salazar, ex-oficio EL dflLISGQ EflFE WHERE GOOD FOOD IS SERVED HOME STYLE OPEN DAILY 7-4 SUNDAYS 6-noon Menudo and Bar-B-Q every Sat & Sun HILLS &7lh 532-7174 gK^^^Kgs Now Starting a NEW Organization for Older <§|Gay Men and Women Hj Call 775-0645 after 5pm call 857-3711 (ask for Joe) 3J«§1» GAYPULSE / August 1988 5
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