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Its one time everyone's supposed to love one another, to have this warm, wonderful feeling about each other, to buy these marvelous expensive gifts to make the others happy. If Supermom is also the breadwinner, Buchorn continued, she'll feel that additional guilt and burden of wanting to provide lavish gifts by overspending to achieve these things. Of course, that alone nags at her, but then she feels even guiltier at feeling guilty over something so capitalistic as money at this warm family time. "But the whole season is a capitalistic idea!" Buchorn cried. "It's commercialism, and Supermom buys into that, too. She doesn't even realize that you can have a lovely Christmas without running yourself ragged and falling into this trap." Still, too many accede to the pressure from adults as well as kids to buy big, expensive gifts —a sure-fire indication of how capitalistic Christmas is. 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"And then she thinks, 'What did I do all that for?' She wants praise and recognition —she doesn't want to feel that her investment in time, energy — and family —has failed." Margaret Buchorn is planning six-week self-awareness or growth groups after the first of the year. The groups are not psychotherapy sessions, she says. Rather, they are discussions on where women are in their lives and how other women handle situations in their lives. "We need support —emotional support from other women/' she says. Anyone interested in participating may call her office at 527-8701. parents too—and may really hit Supermom hard. Perhaps by concentrating on her children's fun, a Supermom can regain some of that lost childhood. Instead of making all the Christmas cookies herself, she can let the kids help, even if it means slightly imperfect cookies and a messier kitchen. She has to let the perfect Supermom image go. If not, after all her trouble to fix a lavish Christ- A family doesn't have to live up to the commercial idea of Christmas. "In my family we played games —the participation was fun for all," she said. "But the family doesn't have to be together. That only adds to the tension. The kids should have time for their friends. And the parents have a perfect right to get away from the kids for awhile. It would probably do Supermom some good." Christmas is especially rough on Supermoms, Buchorn said. "She derives her sense of worth and self-esteem by providing for others," Buchorn pointed out. "So she feels ex- pecially burdened at Christmastime. There are so many expectations —unrealistic ex- pectations-to fulfill. They go on endlessly, what presents to buy, what food to make, how your house should look, how you should entertain, how you should look glamorous. That's Supermom's job." Inevitably, Buchorn said, Supermom tries to make sure that Christmas is all it's cracked up to be, tries to live up to the image her children, husband and society see in her, tries to accede to other's wishes to feel worthy— without ever admitting to herself what she's doing. Her masochistic attitude makes her want to give everything for her family, and nothing for herself; then she wonders why she feels resentful. 5318 Crawford 526-7011 DANIEL BOONE CYCLES JOY BOONE and SARAH PIPAS Women who know bicycles