"Men are learning to be strong enough to show weakness. It takes strength to show
softness, hurt, anxiety, doubt, fear -too many men bear the burden of their masculinity.
They do not accept the feminine traits that exist in all men."__ Kirk D0Urrias
"A feeling human being is the most attractive and appealing regardless of sex. I
believe most men hide their softer selves and thus rob themselves and others of the
best part of their being."_Rod Gnbert
"What we owe men is some freedom from their part in a murderous game in which they
kick each other to death with one foot, bracing themselves on our various comfortable
places with the other."_ Qrace Paley
Four Types of Men
by Fay Levine
Taken from Redstockings
The following represents a condensed picture of four
types of men we have had to deal with (and have loved)
which grew out of a spontaneous and intense consciousness-raising breakfast in Massachusetts. We have already
found it to be a useful tool in discussing what we hope men
are and what they turn to be in fact. So we thought other
women might like to try and use it as a*systematic shorthand for the same purpose.
Sociologists with foundation grants generally study the
groups the establishment is afraid of to defuse their threat.
Now it's our turn to begin studying, from our point of
view, the male.
The Stone is the archtypical husband. He is most interested in preserving conventional appearances, but has difficulty with feelings. In times of difficulty he simply gets
angry at his woman, and with such an air of righteousness
that she promptly feels guilty and assumes internal blame.
Though his wife may be seeking to avoid responsibility by
turning to him, he is not, in the deepest sense, sensitive to
her needs. He is attuned to the needs of society, and is
usually successful in establishment terms. Work is his major
love. He is generally punctual and does what he says he will
In his most harmless form the Stone is professoc of
history or government at Harvard-or even a commercial
artist At his worst, the Stone's inner deadness seeks to
expand itself—and he is Nixon, the bomb-dropper.
There's something parasitic about the Trickster; he's
jealous of anyone with emotions. But he also sees emotions
as vulnerabilities and fears being made a fool of, or tricked,
as his single emotion. So what he does is construct artifices,
for his private entertainment, out of the real emotions of
other people, which he taps. He is always conscious of what
he is doing, i.e. his game, and because he is pre-eminently
concerned with attractiveness, style, presentation, and per
formance, his is the most immediately attractive character
type. Curiously, he will admit to his sins freely, under certain circumstances, but the naive Liberal, his perfect mark,
adamantly refuses to believe even the self-admitted worst
about his fascinating "friend." He will also pretend to far
greater virtue than he supposes himself to possess, should
he think it opportune.
The Liberal trusts that his best friend the Trickster will
not trick him. Naively, he acts out some of his innermost
needs (to be a baby, to have gone to a "good" school)
without consciousness of their effects on other people. But
he wants and values to be liked, and worries when he sees,
at times, nothing likeable in himself. He is a good appreciat-
or of others. To avoid emptiness in himself, which he identifies with the Stone character-type, he indulges the aspect
of Chrome in himself. He believes in good, but not evil, an
illogical position. But he prides himself on argument and
rationality. Thus, at the extreme of the type, having come
to. some degree to the zen (Clay) awareness of his own
illogic, he despairs and seeks to purge the good-in-himself
and as-belief altogether. He is not conscious of the Clay
alternative; it is an unscalable barrier to him. To Clay, he is,
at best, sloppily compassionate. The Liberal laughs at the.
idea that the Empire State Building might fall. The Trickster uses the Liberal's laughter to entangle him.
The Passionate man, the authentic human. Sees other
people in all their aspects. Strives to keep himself non-
blind, non-persnickety, to encompass, to take in new fact.
Compassion is a natural by-product of his search for truth;
he therefore encompasses the Liberal sensibility without
being encompassed by it. Subordination of humans to one
another, and their destruction, is for the integral man
immediately, personally painful. Respectful of the organic
processes of the aesthetic soul, he hesitates to meddle with
his friends' psyches, and he abhors officiousness and the
prestige-machine. Mellow, almost too mellow. He is capable
of some striking extremes of virtue, i.e. martyrdom. Ultimately enjoyable to be with. Has trouble taking action. He
recognizes the Trickster at first scent, and avoids him totally. He is not afraid to use the word "evil" or to judge. He
enjoys the light-hearted Liberal, though does not become
an intimate companion. He devotes his life-work to combatting the dead soul bombs of the Stone.