You say in your letter that you are discovering your own sexuality and that you
need encouragement. I cannot encourage you to be gay. If you feel that you want to
be gay, go ahead. Whatever you feel is natural. No one else can tell you what is
natural or good or right for you. You must tell yourself. For me, loving whoever I
choose to love, or sleeping with whomever I choose to sleep with, with or without love,
is good and right and natural, because I express what I feel and do not force myself
to express feelings which are contrary to my own body or mind. Life is too short for
me to live mine in accordance with other people's rules. I must make my own rules. And
a major rule of mine is to express myself sexually and emotionally with whomever I feel
the need to express myself, whether that be a man or a woman.
Certainly it is not abnormal to masturbate to any fantasy, whether it involves
sleeping with women you know or not. You seem to express a need in your letter to
meet other women who love women. Our society has made this difficult for us. Gay women
are everywhere, but few are all that obvious because they fear reprisal, loss of jobs,
disapproval from parents, acquaintances, etc. In Houston, I can only give a few suggestions. The National Organization for Women has a group called the Sexuality and
Lesbianism Task Force which meets each month at the Women's Center, 3602 Milam. Coordinator for the Task Force is Pokey Anderson, who is also a member of the Pointblank
Times Collective. The next meeting is September 11, at the Women's Center at 7:30 pm.
The only other places where you might meet other women are gay bars. Specifically there
are two which you might enjoy visiting. One is Marion and Lynn's at 817 Fairview and
the other is Ursula's at 1512 W. Alabama. Both bars are owned and run by gay women and
cater mostly to women. I believe that you can visit either place without feeling hassled,
Generally women simply go to bars to talk, play games like pool or pinball, have drinks,
Other than these suggestions, I can think of very few ideas for meeting other
women. Please do not worry about your sexuality—you sound perfectly natural to me!
Books you might read are Sappho Was a Right-On Woman by Sidney Abbot and Barbara Love,
Lesbian/Woman by Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon, Rubyfruit Jungle by Rita Mae Brown, and
Out of the Closets, Voices of Gay Liberation, edited by Karl a Jay and Allen Young. All
of these may be ordered through Mary Ross Rhyne, proprietor of the University Blvd.
Bookstore on University Blvd. Also, if you would like to write anything on your feelings
about gayness for the Pointblank Times, please do so, and we will be glad to consider it
I hope that I have been of some help to you. I know your situation is difficult
and perhaps painful, but I truly believe that if you just let yourself be and follow your
own feelings, everything will work out. Good luck and please keep in touch with us. We
do care about you and will want to know how you are doing.
Linda J. Lovell
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